to the new Mama Sage 2020 Calendar filled with inspiring quotes from powerful women to keep you motivated all year long!
I know what it's like...
"Mommy needs a glass of wine."
"Mommy needs vodka."
"Mommy needs a Xanax."
"You're the reason mommy drinks."
These are all names of Facebook groups.
Our modern culture normalizes drinking. That can also lead to struggling with other substances, like anxiety meds or pain meds, cocaine, etc.
I know that things are hard right now.
Your life is a mess. You feel completely overwhelmed. The kids are always saying,"Mom....Mommy....Mom.....," to the point where you want to change your name, because they need you, but you can barely manage to take care of yourself.
You've ruined friendships and relationships. You can't pay all of the bills. No matter what you do, nothing ever feels good enough and you just can't seem to stay sober.
This was NOT the plan, right?
What if I can give you more? What if I can teach you how to be the best mom that you can be, and how to build a life beyond your wildest dreams as you stay clean and sober?
Are you ready to take the next step and move forward with your life?
My name is Tara. I grew up in, what I think of as, an upper-lower class, or lower-middle class household. We didn't live in a fancy neighborhood, or go on big vacations, but we had food on the table and we always had electric.
Not to knock other motivational speakers or coaches, but I have never been the CEO of a major corporation. I've never owned a home (we are waiting until the kids move out). I've never hosted my own t.v. show or won an Olympic medal.
What I have done is ruin my life with drugs and alcohol, gone to jail repeatedly, ruined relationships, been abused, and allowed my children to see things that they shouldn't.
I couldn't hold a job, and didn't care to stick with one for long anyway, because I wanted to take the day off to drink and lay out because the weather was nice. I was sent home from work once because they suspected that I was under the influence. I stayed up too late the night before drinking. I drove under the influence with my kids in the car, and so many other selfish things.
I felt lost and alone. Nothing ever felt good and I was very depressed. I didn't want to die, but I knew that something had to change. One night I got so high that I thought I was going to have a heart attack. I made a deal with God that if I woke up in the morning, I would go to a meeting, and I did.
That day, I decided to change my life. I became a sober mom. I never imagined that my legacy would be as an alcoholic in recovery. Who has dreams of having to admit that they can't live a life like other people because they struggle with substance abuse? Certainly NOT ME!
Today, I'm a small business owner, author, college student, chef, sobriety sister, work an active 12 step recovery program, and became an ordained minister (because I wanted to marry my friends).
I moved 2,000 miles away from where I grew up in Ohio to explore the country with the man of my dreams and our three awesome kids. I've learned to be a bonus mom and how to co-parent with a woman who struggled to trust that two alcoholic/addicts could stay sober together and be healthy parents for her son, who had already been through enough.
If I can overcome everything that I have, and be all that I am and all that I am becoming, then you too can live a life beyond your wildest dreams too!